What is love? From the early childhood we listen to this wonderful word. Each person has got his own meaning on this word. Each of us puts a little part of own soul in this word. Various discussions are conducted, scientific researchers are held, novels and poems are written. And they are all about real love.
They say that life without love is impossible and rather boring. It seems that only a lazy person doesn’t speak or write about love.
Love is that feeling, which fascinates a person and makes him or her happy, but in some cases it devastates lives. Love makes wonders: it inspires, presents delight and bliss. Love is an integral part of our lives.
A famous psychiatrist Scott Peck and psychologist Dorothy Tennov supposed that love is a genetically determined instinctive component of marital behavior.
Sigmund Freud believed that love has a nature of neurosis. He also believed that love is a conflict of “pleasure principle” and “reality principle” that take place in human’s psyche. Another well-known theory of Sternberg is aimed to understand the dynamics of love. Hearts, which are full of love, are sure that only their love will last forever.
In Christian ethics the biggest expression of love is love to God. No wonder that Bible says that loving couples become one flesh. Scientists established that love is an emotional reflection of biological and chemical processes between women and men. It was proved that feeling of love is associated with elaboration of such substance as phenyl ethylamine (we can find this substance even in chocolate!!!), that causes a stimulating effect.
Love is not only a happy contingency or a passing episode, it’s also an art that requires a person to self-improvement, dedication, willingness to act and sacrifice. In fact, love is a mystery, which can’t be puzzled out. Love is the feeling, when you get the warmth and joy from spending time with that exact person. You begin more and more appreciate spent time with your second part.
Love is also the desire of happiness, gratitude and acceptance of what, who your close person is. Love is state of mind, when the whole world rejoices together with you.
Love doesn’t only happen to an exact person. There is also love to your native country, where you know every leave, ever tree, every step, every pathway. For us warm feelings are associated with Mom and Dad, close friends, favorite pet. Maybe it’s not that love, which is said by philosophers, scientists or poets. Though such kind of love is natural.
Love can be passionate, but sometimes it can be sad. It is believed that a person is given only several times, to feel the sense of love. Information of some social pools shows that each student feels the state of love, on average eight or nine times, but love only once. According to some experts, a person can exactly feel this wonderful feeling only seven times throughout a life. Main features of this feeling can be seen with the naked eye. Love is reflected in our eyes, rosy cheeks, strange gestures and movements.
Sometimes people tend to invent love, just because they’re afraid to stay alone in the world. Sorry to say, but love is not played by rules. We know so many sad stories about people who commit suicide because of unfortunate love. Stories about Ophelia, Juliet, Anna Karenina immediately comes to my mind.
Feeling of love doesn’t have any borders. Love spreads joy, achievement of cherished goals, happiness, and luck. It is thought that love lives only three years, but unfortunately it’s impossible to check now. I consider that after three years this feeling simply grows. This is just the beginning of a new stage, where love grows into a feeling of affection, gratitude, care and understanding.
How is the meaning of love associated with the meaning of family? Family is the biggest value. Family is a foundation, which compiles the society. Family begins with love of two people. Their love is based on joy, when a loving person feels happiness in bringing pleasure to beloved. The ability to love depends on the ability to empathy, on the ability not to think only about you, but also to think about a loved person and the ability to take care of him/her.
In a relationship much depends not only on the reciprocity of love, but also on moral, psychological, sexual and even everyday culture of partners.
Moral culture of family relations is shown not only through moral qualities of a married couple: caring, kindness of close, tolerance and tact. All these qualities are necessary for a marriage, where absolutely different people with their principles, habits and outlooks on life are met.
Psychological culture helps to form a harmonious relationship between a married couple in the process of their communication, helps to respect the individuality of each other and learn how to negotiate in different family situations.
In a harmonious family with father and mother, who love not only their child, but also each other, lead to the formation of personality, which is fully adapted to the realities of adult life.
In incomplete families or in families, where relationship between a married couple are deprived of love and understanding, insufficient payment of a good example, physical and other caresses, leads to difficulties in relationship with opposite sex in personal adult life.
The feeling of love to a wife/husband gives the opportunity to show tremulous emotions without pretending to response actions. True happy couple feels comfortable, when everything is fine with your favorite. Truly loving couples do everything possible to feel comfortable in the future. When a married couple is still in love, they dissolve into each other, and form new qualities that are typical to them.
Love connects people, but the strength of relationship already depends on people, on quality of built relationship and quality of love.
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